Korn guitarist Brian “Head” Welch would probably know something about forgiveness. Having denounced the band he’d co-founded in 2005 and stating that he was a born again Christian, he returned to the band last year. And in his column on Loudwire, he stated that he feels like Tim Lambesis, another Christian artist (since lapsed) deserves a second chance. He brings up a cocaine-fueled meeting in 2000 with some road crew members:
One of our road crew that was in the hotel room with me that night had been involved in gangs in the past and at one point was very high up in the chain of command. Eyes bulging out of my sockets, high as a kite, I asked him, “What would it take to have my wife and her new boyfriend hurt really bad… or worse?”
Now, maybe this question was inspired by all the coke in my system, I don’t know? But at that moment, I can honestly say I wish I could have hired someone to kill my wife and her boyfriend. In my mind, my wife was worthless and I felt she deserved some major punishment for what she did to our daughter and me. I had already murdered them in my heart.
Looking back on it today, I am so thankful for what came out of that dude’s mouth. As he stared into my eyes with the most dead-serious look I’ve ever been given, he said,
‘Head, if you cross that line, you can never go back.’
And he actually got to visit Lambesis while he was on house arrest, pre -jail:
I finally did get to visit Tim a couple months ago at his parents’ home as he was under house arrest. Me and my boy ‘Ryan Ries’ from The Whosoevers brought Tim and his girlfriend some Mexican food and just hung out and talked. Tim was so humble, remorseful and clearheaded about everything. He and his girlfriend actually really encouraged us, as we did them. We also hid a hot pepper in Tim’s burrito like in the movie ‘Dumb & Dumber’ to break the ice, and because it was funny as hell, LOL.
I told Tim that as strange as it may have sounded, I was really excited about his future. I have seen God create overwhelming beauty out of a pile of ashes so many times, and I look forward to seeing all the good that comes out of this horrible situation. Seeing beauty birthed from the most ugly of circumstances is one of my most favorite miracles to witness. It proves there is a God who always loves and never gives up on humans – no matter how far we fall.
Let’s all try and give out positive vibes and prayers towards Tim, Meggan and this entire situation and watch as beauty is formed from all of the ashes.”
Cocaine and steroids are pretty different from each other, but apparently both can lead to situations in which you make irrational decisions. However, Welch didn’t act on his, and Lambesis did. And the As I Lay Dying singer will get a second chance. It just won’t happen until six years from now and it’s cost him his wife, his children and his band.